There are a few lifestyle blogs out there, aren’t there? And you can’t possibly like them, follow them and read them all, so bear with me as I tell you why you shouldn’t read my blog.
You don’t believe in change
Change is very much part of life. Often change happens to you when you’re not looking for it. And let’s face it, it’s not always for the better.
But at times, change is very much sought after and needed. Sometimes change starts with YOU, because YOU want it. And it’s never that easy – in fact, change is hard. Even when you want to make changes to your life for the better.
But if you don’t believe in change, and if,when you look deep into your heart, there’s really nothing that you would like to do any differently, then this blog isn’t the place for you. Because we are going to be talking about change quite a bit.
You don’t believe in self-improvement
Do you believe that people can work hard to improve something about themselves? Like their fitness level or their health, for example?
Think about that person you know in your circle of friends who used to eat out most nights and never once hit the gym in their twenties but then ran a marathon in their forties. I bet you can name at least one.
This shows that people can change. That people can work hard to change for the better. That self-improvement is possible.
And obviously, you don’t need to run a marathon. Improvement can take many shapes. What represents an improvement for me might be something you’ve been doing for years. Or simply something you’re not even remotely interested in. And that’s fine.
Self-improvement is for YOU. It’s subjective. Only you know what it means and looks like.
But if you’re not interested in things like improving the way you feel, or parent, or relate to others, organise your home or your time, or simply the way you look after yourself (or not), then you’re not in the right place.
Because we’ll be talking about self-improvement a fair bit.
You don’t want to learn anything new about yourself
If you want to change, you need to know what your starting point is. You need to know who you are today, so you know what tools you have to help you get where you want to get. And you also know what kind of things are likely to get in your way. You’ll want to know what new habits you want to introduce and what old behaviours you’d rather drop.
No shame in that.
But becoming more self-aware and learning things about yourself that you don’t like to admit or hear can be uncomfortable. Painful even.
So if you’re not ready for it, then you’re not in the right place, because self-awareness is one of the stepping stones to make any change in the right direction stick.
You don’t believe in self-care
You don’t have time for self-care.
Maybe you’re a parent.
Maybe you’re self-employed, and you work too much.
Maybe you’re not self-employed, and you work too much.
Maybe you just don’t enjoy it.
What’s self-care anyway? Who’s got the time or money for it? At the end of the day, the more I do and achieve, the more I cram in my days, the more successful I’ll be, so no point in wasting time in things that aren’t priorities, right?
Well no, not really.
Self-care is important. If you don’t look after yourself, you won’t be able to look after anyone or anything else. Not your job. Not your business. Not your children. Not your family.
But if you don’t agree with this, then look away now, because we’re going to be working hard to make self-care a priority.
You think mindfulness is just the latest buzz word and, frankly, you’re a bit tired of hearing everyone talk about it
I get that.
But truth be told (and I’m sure you already know this), mindfulness isn’t a recent concept. In fact, it’s really quite old. And come to think of it, it really looks like we (humanity) have lost our ways a little bit.
We lost the good old habit of spending time ‘not doing’ and looking after our minds. We lost the luxury of having time on our hands and space in our minds.
It’s like a constant race. A competition. To have it all. To achieve. To do, do, and do some more. Except that it isn’t quite good for us. And as a result we’re less resilient to stress, anxiety and fear.
It’s not to say that mindfulness can fix it all, but it can make quite a lot of things better. Take me for example – just in the last few months, mindfulness has helped me improve my sleep, deal with anxiety and with the long recovery from a nasty injury. And this is just the beginning. I know I’ve only just scratched the surface, and I’m sure mindfulness can help me in a lot of other areas of my life too.
So if you don’t want to hear about it, you can look away now.
But if you are open to all of the above, then please stay, and we can travel this journey together.